We all have the right to feel safe all the time.
Our bodies tell us when we are feeling safe.
Sometimes it’s fun to feel a little scared. We watch scary films or go on scary fairground rides because it is fun. We are in control and know it is going to end.
Our bodies tell us when we are not feeling safe. It could be unsafe if it is not our choice or if we are not in control.
We can talk with someone about anything even if it seems awful or small or we've been told it’s our little secret. We can ask for help if we are feeling unsafe.
We will know our problem has been solved when we feel safe again.
What is the underwear rule?
The underwear rule helps us feel confident and safe. If you learn about to talk PANTS, you've got it covered.
P - Privates are private
Parts of your body covered by underwear are private. No one should ask to see or touch them. Sometimes doctors, nurses or family members might have to. But they should explain why and ask if it's OK first.
No one should ask you to touch or look at parts of their body that are covered by underwear.
A - Always remember your body belongs to you
It's your body, no one else's. No one should make you do things that make you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. If anyone tries, tell an adult you trust. This could be your teacher, the headteacher or a police officer.
N - No means NO
You have the right to say 'no' - even to a family member or someone you love. Remember you're in control of your body and your feelings are important.
T - Talk about secrets that upset you
Secrets shouldn't make you feel upset or worried. If they do, tell an adult you trust. You will never get into trouble for sharing a secret that upsets you.
S - Speak up, someone can help
Talk about stuff that makes you worried or upset. An adult you trust will listen and be able to help. It doesn't have to be a family member. It can be a teacher or a friend's parent.
You can also phone Childline on 0800 1111.
What can I do if I'm scared?
If you need to talk but don't know who to call, try Childline on 0800 1111 and ask for help or advice.
